May 30, 2011


 If you realized how powerful your thoughts are, you would never think a negative thought...
Our attitude toward life determines life's attitude towards us...

Last night I saw a show on TV that left a too vivid impression on me. Can't get over people's behaviour.... as a result, I have been awake since 3am and as many of you know that's the perfect time for hundreds of thoughts running through your mind.  Laying in bed I have been thinking of so many different things and one in particular is about rifts/disagreements among people and wondering why? what's the reason? 
Obviously there are hundreds, but a common theme that has been playing through my mind is simply 3 reasons...

1. JEALOUSY, sometimes defined as the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear, and anxiety over an anticipated loss of something that the person values.  We have all gone through some sort of jealousy at some time of our lives, as a much younger and insecure woman many years ago I went through this phase, but as time went by and I matured I learnt that it is OK to be a little jealous as long as that jealousy does not consume you all day long to the point where you become a very angry, hostile and down right mean/nasty person.  Then that is no longer just your typical has now become some kind of obsessive hatred/jealousy....

Jealousy often consists of a combination of presenting emotions such as anger, sadness, resentment and disgust.  I do believe that some sort of jealousy is OK, actually normal.  It begins from the time we are kids and it is a very common human emotion, but like I said when it is taken to extreme measures it becomes a very horrible trait.  It consumes some to the point this is all they think about...common signs of jealousy are:

Fear of loss
Suspicion of or anger about a perceived betrayal
Low self-esteem and sadness over perceived loss
Uncertainty and loneliness
Fear of losing an important person to another
A competent and self-confident person is incapable of jealousy in anything. Jealousy is invariably a symptom of neurotic insecurity...

2 ENVY, not to be confused with jealousy.  Envy consists of : 
Feelings of inferiority
Resentment of circumstances
Ill will towards envied person often accompanied by guilt about these feelings
Motivation to improve
Desire to possess the attractive rival's qualities
Disapproval of feelings

We have all been guilty at some time also of feeling many of these...but the problem lies when we cannot move on and see beyond them.   Our lives can lose focus and sooner or later these negative thought will consume a person to the point that they cannot function as "normal" any longer.  This obviously would be an extreme case.
Envy is a symptom of lack of appreciation of our own uniqueness and self worth. Each of us has something to give that no one else has...

Least but not last is
3. MONEY, I will be the first to say that money makes your life more comfortable, much easier to do the things you like and it gives you a kind of status be it good or bad.  Having money has it's merits, but at the end of the day as Bob Marley said to his son Ziggy Marley just before dying. "money can't buy you life"  I have seen the good money can do and I have seen the other side as well.  It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven't lost the things that money can't buy...

Lately on TV these 3 topics have been repeating it seems constantly.  Every other show I watch deals with mainly families fighting over money, or being jealous and envious of each other.  I don't consider myself beyond these emotions, but I would like to think that I would never stoop to the level of some people.  I come from a large family.  5 girls and let me tell you we have been through all of these at some time or another in our lives.  As we get older we hopefully become more aware of what is important in life...we all have choices....I like to think I have made the right choices. 

There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative....
To wish you were someone else is to waste the person you are...

until next time....

May 25, 2011

Losing A Loved One...

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal...

Today I am very sad.  Someone we knew and liked very much has died. Too many emotions are going through my mind right now and I sure don't know how to exactly cope with it.

Losing someone dear to you is like nothing you can imagine.  Only the person who has actually lost a loved one can truly relate to this.  Many years ago I was in the same boat.  My first husband died in a motorcycle accident.  To say I was totally unprepared is stupid...who is ever prepared for this?  One minute he was leaving to go ride his motorcycle...hours after I was calling every hospital, highway patrol everything and everyone you can think of because you see he had not shown up at home as scheduled and not several hours after.

When the police officer knocked on my door I just knew...all I said was "he's dead isn't he" and the officer said "yes".  Needless to say my world as I knew it shattered to pieces.  Today I can imagine our friends wife's world also being shattered to pieces and nothing anyone can say or do will ever put it back together.

For me it was as if the world had ended.  I can only imagine what "Tammy" is going through right.  She's probably thinking this is just a joke...a bad one that is.  Then she is probably screaming at God asking him WHY???  How could you do this to us when there are so many others out there that are bad people that surely do not deserve to live...I know I did that...hundreds and hundreds of time.  No use.  The one you loved was still dead! 

I remember picking up the phone and calling everyone I knew and telling them.  You see I lived in California at the time and all of my family was elsewhere.  Like Tammy I spent that first night all by say you cry yourself to sleep is an understatement.  After a while there are no more tears and loneliness and grief become your partners for a very , very long time.

In the beginning there are people all around you offering words of sympathy, trying to help you out in any and everyway possible...each is doing their best to make you feel better, but all you feel is NOTHING!!   What others have to understand is that the person going through this grieving time has to do it their way...of course it helps to have support of friends and family.  Had it not been for my family I am not sure what would have become of me. 

This person that died was a good friend...good enough that I have dedicated my blog to them.  All I can say is that in a situation like this you have to take it one day at a time.  From this point on it is baby steps.  There will be days when it seems you are moving backwards rather than forwards.  Do not worry.  This happens, just don't sink into that depression that seems to want to swallow you up forever...fight it.  Easy to say.  Harder to do, but take it from me not impossible.  There will be good days again although right now you surely do not believe that.

When Paul died and I was told that one day things would get better I looked at that person and said NEVER!  It has taken me years and year to get to where I am right now.  Everyone is different.  For me it was my family that never let me give me at times you just want to say enough, roll up like a ball and just let things happen. 

Everyday is a new challenge.  Waking up was a challenge...just making it through the day was exhausting.  Tammy will need all the friends and family to give her support and keep her positive.  One of my favorite things anyone ever said to me was "time does not take away the pain but makes it more bearable"  Today I can say that time is a good healer.  You do not believe this right now because the grief is too new...but trust me time heals. 

Only The Best
A heart of gold stopped beating,
two shining eyes at rest,
God broke our hearts to prove,
He only takes the best.
God knows you had to leave us,
but you did not go alone,
for part of us went with you,
the day He took you home.
To some you are forgotten,
to others just part of the past,
but to us who loved and lost you,
the memory will always last.



as they die, the ones we love, we lose our witnesses, our watchers, those who know and understand the tiny little meaningless patterns, those words drawn in water with a stick. And there is nothing left but the endless flow...

until next time...

May 23, 2011



I give you Chicago. It is not London and Harvard. It is not Paris and buttermilk. It is American in every chitling and sparerib. It is alive from snout to tail...  

It's almost that time of the year again....yeah! Very soon we will be going to Chicago and all I can say is that I can't wait.  We have been looking forward to this for such a long time and FINALLY the time is near.

Arvid, I and Brutus have a very good life if I may say so.  We enjoy our times together ALWAYS and always have a good time together no matter what we do or where we go.
life in Eleuthera, Bahamas

CHEERS to Chicago!

We are fortunate to live in Florida during the winters.  This you can't beat and in the summers we call Chicago home. As someone once said and I now repeat...I adore Chicago. It is the pulse of America.  I have lived in NYC, California and New Jersey among others and I will have to say that today my favorite city is Chicago.  The people are friendly, the food is good the music is is everything we love....unfortunately we won't live there all year long because their winters are HARSH!   In between these two places we also call Eleuthera, Bahamas home.

Life in Chicago is just one exteded vacation....can't wait for it to begin!

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.....

until next time...

May 20, 2011


Weekends don't count unless you spend them doing something completely pointless....

Like most of you I look forward to our weekend always with great anticipation and excitement.  Arvid and I are very spontaneous people so for us everyday holds something unexpected.  The weekdays are fairly predictably, mostly work, work and work, but comes the weekend we just absolutely do whatever we please.

We may decide on the spur of the moment to go visit another State or country just because we saw for instance a car, an apartment or something that caught our fancy.  We do not necessarily have to buy it, but the fun lies in the trip itself.

Not so long ago we visited the Dominican Republic because we taught we might have been interested in property there.  We were not, but we still had a blast and that's what matters.

We also went to Myrtle Beach for the same reason were not interested in anything there, but ended up having a good time and discovering a place we had never been to.

Our spur of the moment trip took us to Eleuthera in 2004.  Next thing you know we have a home there...we enjoy doing these kinds of stuff and to me the adventure part is what makes our life so exciting.  It always starts with "what shall we do this weekend"?

Looking forward to the coming weekend because I will be visiting my sister and family in Puerto Rico.  It is going to be an absolutely fun time.  All of us except for one sister, Rima will be there.  Can't wait to see everyone and just do absolutely NOTHING for a change, but just be with my family! 

Sometimes the most important thing in a whole day is the rest we take between two deep breaths...

until next time..

May 17, 2011

Favorite Quotes:)

I love to use quotes when writing my blog and in the process of doing just that I have come across so many.  Today I decided to just share some of my favorites....there are way too many so had to make the list short.  Hope you enjoy.

I've learned that people will forget what you said,
people will forget what you did,

but people will never forget how you made them feel...

Make somebody happy today, and mind your own business...

Jealousy is nothing more than a fear of abandonment...

I don't pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me; love is knowing all about someone, and still wanting to be with them more than any other person, love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself, including the things you might be ashamed of, love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone, but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.... my special quote for Arvid.....

You have enemies? Good. That means you've stood up for something, sometime in your life...

To be happy with a man you must understand him a lot and love him a little. To be happy with a woman you must love her a lot and not try to understand her at all...

Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It's the sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life....

Laugh when you can,
apologize when you should,
and let go of what you can't change.
Life's too short to be anything... but happy...

There are two things a person should never be angry at, what they can help, and what they cannot..

My mom is a never-ending song in my heart
Of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words
But I always remember the tune...

He didn't tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it...A truly rich man is one whose children run into his arms when his hands are empty ...(daddy this is for you)

When we are grateful for the good we already have, we attract more good into our life. On the other hand, when we are ungrateful, we tend to shut ourselves off from the good we might otherwise experience...

Envy is the art of counting the other fellow's blessings instead of your own...

The future depends on what we do in the present...

Don’t let what you can’t do stop you from what you can do...
To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that’s all...
These are some of my many more, but for now this will do..
until next time...

May 15, 2011

Beauty Foods For Younger-Looking Skin

I'm pretty sure there's a lot more to life than being really, really, ridiculously good looking. And I plan on finding out what that is.....

How many of us have not just sat in the sun and baked when we were much younger without giving a thought to the effects the sun would have on our skin later on in our lives...?

All those hours in the sun gave us what we thought then was a beautiful, bronzy tanned body.

Today I realize the sun exposure just accelerated my skin’s aging process.  Now that I’m older and wiser—and not anxious to look the part—I’m wearing more sunscreen to protect my skin from the outside in.  Science has shown that eating more of these foods will protect the skin from the inside out.

Keep your skin looking younger—for the rest of your life—with these 4 foods:

Strawberries:  We all know strawberries are delicious, but they are also nutritious, and ideally should be a part of everyone's daily diet. Eating more vitamin C-rich foods, such as strawberries, may help to ward off wrinkles and age-related drynessThe USDA recommends that every American eat at least five servings of fresh fruits and vegetables daily, but unfortunately, most people don't even come close to that. Adding fresh strawberries to your diet, whether they are in salads, smoothies, or on their own, is a great way to get the servings of fruit you need for a well-rounded body and a healthy immune system.

Tomatoes: Tomatoes get their red hue from lycopene, a carotenoid that may help to keep your skin smooth.  Scientists think an antioxidant, lycopene, which gives tomatoes their colour, can neutralise harmful molecules produced in skin exposed to the sun's ultra-violet rays.

Tofu: Tofu and other soyfoods, such as edamame and soymilk, may help to preserve skin-firming collagen because they are rich in isoflavones.  researchers believe that isoflavones help prevent collagen breakdown.

Tuna: Eating tuna—and other omega-3-rich fish, such as salmon, sardines and trout—may help keep your skin looking youthful thanks to the omega-3 fat EPA.... EPA has been shown to preserve collagen.

We all love to eat, and many of us equate healthy eating with boring, tasteless meals. Thankfully it doesn't have to be that way. It's very possible to eat foods you truly love while also improving your health and losing weight. Experiment with healthy food options and find some healthy foods that you really enjoy eating.

Eating right and exercising regularly does wonders not only for your body, but also for your mind. When you feel good physically, you are happier. Many people seek happiness in pills and therapy... when positive lifestyle changes could easily give them the sense of empowerment, strength, freedom and joy that they're really seeking...

cheers all!

Just remember....Those who have no time for healthy eating will sooner or later have to find time for illness.  Be well all and remember healthy eating does not mean you have to give up on your favorite "bad" foods.. moderation is the key to everything...

It takes more than just a good looking body. You've got to have the heart and soul to go with it......

until next time...

May 14, 2011

25 Manners Every Kid Should Know By Age 9....

Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others. If you have that awareness, you have good manners, no matter what fork you use...

Being a child today seems much more challenging than when I was a child. Long time ago, it seems as if parents had more free time on their hands not so much today it seems.  Both my parents worked when I was a child, yet they always found the time to teach us right and wrong and to be respectful and mindful of others..

Sometimes kids(adults also) just don't realize it's impolite to interrupt, pick their nose, or loudly observe that the lady walking in front of them has a large behind. And in the hustle and bustle of daily life, busy moms and dads don't always have the time to focus on etiquette. But if you reinforce these 25 must-do manners, you'll raise a polite, kind, respectful, well-liked child.-

Manner #1
When asking for something, say "Please."

Manner #2
When receiving something, say "Thank you."

Manner #3
Do not interrupt grown-ups who are speaking with each other unless there is an emergency. They will notice you and respond when they are finished talking.

Manner #4
If you do need to get somebody's attention right away, the phrase "excuse me" is the most polite way for you to enter the conversation.
Manner #5
When you have any doubt about doing something, ask permission first. It can save you from many hours of grief later.

Manner #6
The world is not interested in what you dislike. Keep negative opinions to yourself, or between you and your friends, and out of earshot of adults.

Manner #7
Do not comment on other people's physical characteristics unless, of course, it's to compliment them, which is always welcome.

Manner #8
When people ask you how you are, tell them and then ask them how they are.

Manner #9
When you have spent time at your friend's house, remember to thank his or her parents for having you over and for the good time you had.  I have noticed this to be very lacking in young kids today...they find it very difficult to say THANK YOU!!

Manner #10
Knock on closed doors -- and wait to see if there's a response -- before entering.

Manner #11
When you make a phone call, introduce yourself first and then ask if you can speak with the person you are calling.  This applies to grown -up also.  So many times I have picked up the phone and the person on the other end assumes I know who they are...NOT ALWAYS!
Manner #12
Be appreciative and say "thank you" for any gift you receive. In the age of e-mail, a handwritten thank-you note can have a powerful effect.
Manner #13
Never use foul language in front of adults. Grown-ups already know all those words, and they find them boring and unpleasant.  So true...nothing worse than hearing foul language from someone you never expected it from...

Manner #14
Don't call people mean names.

Manner #15
Do not make fun of anyone for any reason. Teasing shows others you are weak, and ganging up on someone else is cruel.

Manner #16
Even if a play or an assembly is boring, sit through it quietly and pretend that you are interested. The performers and presenters are doing their best....I have to pay special attention to this one.  My weakness is I am not patient and I get bored easily...

Manner #17
If you bump into somebody, immediately say "Excuse me."

Manner #18
Cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze, and don't pick your nose in public.  Also another thing I find HORRIBLE is people picking their teeth at the table.  If you have to use a toothpick go to the bathroom.  DISGUSTING!!!

Manner #19
As you walk through a door, look to see if you can hold it open for someone else.

Manner #20
If you come across a parent, a teacher, or a neighbor working on something, ask if you can help. If they say "yes," do so -- you may learn something new.

Manner #21
When an adult asks you for a favor, do it without grumbling and with a smile.

Manner #22
When someone helps you, say "thank you." That person will likely want to help you again. This is especially true with teachers!  WHY DO SOME FIND SAYING THANK YOU SUCH A DIFFICULT THING!!!?

Manner #23
Use eating utensils properly. If you are unsure how to do so, ask your parents to teach you or watch what adults do.

Manner #24
Keep a napkin on your lap; use it to wipe your mouth when necessary.

Manner #25
Don't reach for things at the table; ask to have them passed.

A man's own manner and character is what most becomes him...Respect for ourselves guides our morals; respect for others guides our manners....

until next time....

May 9, 2011

Boat Story:)

Humor is a reminder that no matter how high the throne one sits on, one sits on one's bottom.....

They say the two happiest days in life are the day you buy a boat and the day you sell it!!

Well, here's a good BOAT story!!

Joe and John were identical twins. Joe owned an old dilapidated boat and kept pretty much to himself. One day he rented out his boat to a group of out-of-staters who sank it. Joe spent all day trying to salvage as much stuff as he could and was out of touch all that day and most of the evening.

Unknown to him, his brother John's wife died suddenly. When he got back on shore he went into town to pick up a few things at the grocery.

A kind old neighbor woman mistook him for John and said:

'I'm so sorry for your loss. You must feel terrible.'
Joe, thinking she was talking about his boat said: 'Hell no! Fact is I'm sort of glad to be rid of her.
She was a rotten old thing from the beginning.
Her bottom was all shriveled up and she smelled like old dead fish.
She was always holding water.
She had a bad crack in the back and a pretty big hole in the front too.

Every time I used her, her hole got bigger and she leaked like crazy.
I guess what finally finished her off was when I rented her to those four guys looking for a good time.
I warned them that she wasn't very good and smelled bad. But they wanted her anyway.
The darn fools tried to get in her all at one time and she split right up the middle!'
The old woman fainted.

I think the next best thing to solving a problem is finding some humor in it.....

until next time 

May 6, 2011

Healthy Fast Food Drinks...

Every human being is the author of his own health or disease....

We all know that liquid calories can add up quickly more so today because of all temptations around us and the way we live life always on the fast track.  It only takes a few minutes to pop into your nearest Starbucks or whichever specialty coffee store of your preference and grab something to go...these stores are all over so it makes it super easy to just grab and go...I know because when I lived within walking distance to Starbucks it was so easy to just go for a walk and grab one of my favorite drinks....

When it comes to hidden fat and calories, your drink may be delivering more than you bargained for. In fact, sipping just one extra can of soda a day can add up to nearly 15 new and unwanted pounds in a year. But that liquid refreshment doesn’t need to add to your bottom line.  Read on to see  the healthiest – and most waistline-friendly – drinks to grab on the go.

Starbucks – Espresso
Counterintuitive as it may seem, an espresso from Starbucks actually has less caffeine than a cup of Joe. With only 75 milligrams of caffeine per cup, this brew gives you a kick compared to the 260-milligram jolt you’d get from a tall coffee. How so? It all boils down to caffeine per ounce. Ounce per ounce, espresso does have more caffeine than coffee, roughly 75 milligrams versus 22 milligrams. But because that cup of java is 12 times bigger, its caffeine really adds up.

Jamba Juice – Probiotic Fruit & Yogurt Blends
Jamba Juice just made your smoothie even healthier. Their Probiotic Fruit & Yogurt Blends pack a probiotic boost to improve digestion and bolster your immune system. Made with nonfat yogurt, soymilk, and whole fruit, they’re available in three good-for-you flavors: strawberry, mango, or blueberry. One 16-ounce smoothie boasts roughly 15% each of your daily dose of calcium and iron, half of your day’s vitamin C, and 2 to 3 grams of filling fiber for 230 to 250 calories.

skip the whip cream:)
 Einstein Bros Bagels – Medium Iced Latte
Craving something cool and caffeinated? A medium iced latte from Einstein Bros Bagels hits the spot. Ask for yours with nonfat milk and you’ll shave off some serious fat and calories - and get 16 ounces of refreshment for a surprisingly low 60 calories and zero grams of fat. You’ll also score a quarter of your day’s calcium and 7 grams of high-quality protein.

McDonald’s - Small Nonfat Latte
Among its dizzying array of coffee drinks, frappes, shakes, and smoothies, McDonald’s serves up a winner. Its small, 12-ounce, nonfat latte packs as much calcium and protein as you’d get from a glass of milk, all for only 90 calories and zero grams of fat. Pair it with a Fruit and Maple Oatmeal for a hearty breakfast or an order of Apple Dippers with Low-fat Carmel Dip for a satisfying snack.

Seattle’s Best - Small Nonfat Chai Latte
One of the best nutrition bargains at Seattle’s Best is a tea drink. For only 140 calories and zero fat grams you can walk away with a chai latte that’s way skinnier than the competition. And if you don’t do dairy, you can still drink up. This spicy elixir is also available in a 150-calorie soy version. Also, each variety packs 20% of your daily calcium.

To insure good health: eat lightly, breathe deeply, live moderately, cultivate cheerfulness, and maintain an interest in life...

until next time...

May 4, 2011


Our greatest strength as a human race is our ability to acknowledge our differences, our greatest weakness is our failure to embrace them......

Nothing deep about today's post just some basic style differences I have been seeing lately among people from different countries compared to the US.  Nothing unusual there, but it is just that lack of common sense that makes me wonder about people in general.  I have truly started to agree that common sense is not so common after all.

Just for instance, a few weeks ago we were at a Blues Festival taking place  in the park, almost 100F and what do we see...young girls with spiky high heels trying to navigate their way on the grass.  Had it not been so ridiculous we would have probably seen the humor in it.  Right there and then we did not.  Forget all the make-up and jewelery they had on.

The lifestyle in Florida is very relaxed and casual.  Seeing how all these young  girls/women dress is sometimes very amusing.  Don't get me wrong I admire people who dare to be different, I just don't think much of people with a lack of common sense.

First, I believe that what makes us the individual we are are our differences and our ability to accept the differences of others. 

There are just certain things though that I still find kinda strange when I see.  For instance it being so hot here in Florida, we hardly wear stockings when going out...I think it's kind of silly in this heat.  This is not unusual in most countries especially in the colder ones, but here in Florida it's least that's what I think. 

....but please use common sense:)

We were Downtown a few nights ago.  Out for a casual dinner.  Nothing fancy.  Just about everyone was dressed casual....., but then all of a sudden in walks in a few young girls.  Not from the US.  I knew right away by their clothes, too dressed up... what I would call frumpy, hair and makeup (too much) and of course by their language.  It was not English.  They looked out of place, but I have to say that I admired them and anyone who has the courage to be different and self confident at the same time. 

When we lose the right to be different, we lose the right to be free....

until next time...

May 2, 2011

White Lies Or The Truth....

A half-truth is the most cowardly of lies.....if you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything...

It's been said that it is hard to believe that a man is telling the truth when you know that you would lie if you were in his place...something we all do even though we may not want to admit it...we all tell lies in one form or another.

Telling lies come easy for's their way of life while others may tell lies but see it as a necessary evil....let's call it white lies.  Sure sounds better.   Anyone who says to me they have never told a lie is already lying:))   As someone said  we tell lies when we are afraid... afraid of what we don't know, afraid of what others will think, afraid of what will be found out about us.  But every time we tell a lie, the thing that we fear grows stronger.

There are some that have made telling lies seem like just a daily occurrence.  Nothing unusual about's just how it is.  In business it's been said that if you tell the entire truth then you are not a real business person.....then I must admit I must not have a great business sense because I prefer to deal with the truth.  From the time we were little, my dad always told us, "the truth shall set you free" to this day I stand by that belief.  Does not mean that I have not told little white lies either:)

A few weeks ago, I was at the doctor's office and as I was waiting I overheard a conversation....difficult not to since it was so loud.  Two "business" people were planning a  "business strategy"  Let's just say I overheard more than I wanted to and most of it was made to sound like the truth.  Overall it was pretty amusing but, let's just say not entirely least that's how I figured it out from what was said:))  I am not that naive...I do know that sometimes a white lie is much better than the stark naked long as you are not hurting anyone....

I believe that no matter what one should always be truthful.   Sometimes I have gotten into a lot of tight spots by telling the truth...just ask any of my sisters or my parents...even Arvid they will say that I speak before I think.  Not always the best, but it is always the truth.

Telling the truth does not necessarily mean you have to tell everyone everything either.  Truth is no one really wants to hear your entire life/sob story no matter if it's the truth or not so stick to basics and then everyone is happy and remember a single lie destroys a whole reputation for integrity....

Always tell the truth. Then you'll never have to remember what you said the last time....

until next time...