Jan 31, 2012

Stress...

Sometimes it's important to work for that pot of gold.  But other times it's essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down on the rainbow....

If anyone can say for sure that they live a stress free life then I would ask...what's your secret?  Arvid and I have faced many obstacles during our relationship and have survived them.  Of course not without lots of anxiety and stress.  Nothing most people have not gone through.
We have gotten to a stage in our lives where we have set everything so that we can live stress free.  Trust me there is no such thing yet we strive and work towards it everyday.  We work well together, we are in harmony with each other, but it is always some unknown factors that causes stress in a persons life.  
Arvid, like many of you, is the type of person who always likes to help everyone.  At least he has forever tried to please everyone by always going out of his way for them.   Good and bad.  Sometimes it gets to a point where people start to take you for granted, people expect from you all the time without ever considering your time anymore.  He is what I call the problem solver.  When someone has a problem, Arvid is the one they call.  When someone wants something taken care of it's Arvid they call.  Sometimes it has gotten to the point where I am fed up!

relaxed together


I always wonder why can't people manage their own lives, their own problems and their own everything.  Nothing wrong with helping out a bit, but sometimes it goes overboard.

Stress has many ways of showing itself.  In Arvid I know his entire body aches to the point where he is literally in excruciating pain, sometimes it causes him to have chest pains and this really bothers me.  This is when I would like to wring someones neck for causing him this.  Don't get me wrong, many a times Arvid is the cause of his own stress. 
All in all what I am trying to say is that life is stressful enough without having other people add to it.  One of the best stress therapies for us is being around Brutus.  Something to do with a cats ability to always be serene, calming and always so patient.

 Other ways we like to de-stress is listening to music, going away for a weekend with good food and drinks, and another favorite of Arvid's is turning OFF the phones.  Nothing relaxes him as much as when he is away from the phones and the computers... like they say, adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.

If you ask what is the single most important key to longevity, I would have to say it is avoiding worry, stress and tension. And if you didn't ask me, I'd still have to say it....

until next time...