Nov 3, 2019

My Friend Is Hurting ~

Grief is never something you get over. You don't 
wake up one morning and say, 'I've conquered that;
now I'm moving on.' It's something that walks beside 
you every day. And if you can learn how to manage it and 
honour the person that you miss, you can take something
 that is incredibly sad and have some form of positivity...

Another beautiful day here, but for my friend 
Anna today is difficult and heart wrenching.  
Today is one year since her Taino died.

 For those who have never experienced the loss 
of a pet it is hard to imagine.  Whatever it is you think 
that person is going through, is not even the half of it.  

Losing a pet is one of the most painful losses one will 
experience.  That pet/family member is usually so bonded
 to us that getting over that loss can sometimes take forever.

The pain of loss can often feel overwhelming and
 trigger all sorts of painful and difficult emotions. While 
some people may not understand the depth of feeling 
you had for your pet, you should never feel guilty
 or ashamed about grieving for an animal friend.

Don’t let anyone tell you how to feel, and don’t
 tell yourself how to feel either. Your grief is your own,
 and no one else can tell you when it’s time to “move on” 
or “get over it.” Let yourself feel whatever you feel
 without embarrassment or judgment. It’s okay to be angry, 
to cry or not to cry. It’s also okay to laugh, to find 
moments of joy, and to let go when you’re ready.

You know the saying, Don’t judge someone
 until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.

Sometimes in life we forget where we came from. 
 We see a person, we see what we want to see.  Yet, we 
never know what that person is going through.  Never ever 
judge a person unless you have walked in there shoes.

Anna, I know what you are going through.  I know 
some days are good and others are hell.  The first
 year is hard because you still remember what you did
 with your baby.  I know.  My memories are vivid as well.  
I just want you to know that I am always here for you.

Grief changes shape, but it never ends.  
Sometimes all you can do is lie in bed and 
hope to fall asleep before you fall apart...