Jul 12, 2012

What Does Today Hold....?

I am extraordinarily patient, provided I get my own way in the end...
Have to say that yesterday was quite interesting to put it nicely. As mentioned this summer in Norway we are catering mostly to Arvid's mom seeing that she has not been feeling tat great. Both Arvid and I promised to do whatever it is she wanted. So far so good.

Since arriving in Norway 7 days ago we have visited her every day neglecting everyone else at times, but it's his mom. She needs him and we promised. Now remember neither Arvid not I are the most patient of people. We are fast paced and one thing we do not tolerate is being "ordered" around.
me dusting
In the beginning, day one going into day two, we let our selves be bossed around. After all his mom is 84 and not doing too great. Each day his mom has many little errands for us to do. Not a problem we do them because it also gives us a chance to get out of the apartment. So far the chores have been directed to Arvid with me helping out.  I do not mind and when it started to irritate me I just left and went to the mall.
doing the groceries for Arvid's mom
Now yesterday was a different story. As she was instructing Arvid to do so and so chores, I just sat down and decided to read my book.  Always have one with me for times like this. This did not sit too well with her. She looks at me and says "the apartment is full of dust. Why don't you take the duster and dust everywhere for me?". I look at her and say, "I don't dust in my own home". She says "what? what is it that you do all day long?". I look at her and say, "I do nothing all day long. Ever since I met Arvid I have him doing everything."  She really believed me and I of course did nothing to correct her.  In fact I sort of encouraged her to think I did nothing ever. She just looked at me and then said, "you only fix yourself up all day long?". I said yes that takes a long time and when I'm done there is not much time left for much more.

Needless to say she is left with the belief that I am useless and do no work.  She now believes that Arvid is the only one who does anything at all.  Does not bother me at all.  In fact still smiling over it. His mom is funny of course, but I do not think so when it is I who is being ordered around. The best part was Arvid.   He was just laughing at me saying that he has waited 12 years to see me dust. Says he will be buying me a duster when we get back home. I told him I'm OK with that as long as he knows he will be dusting. He said he had to take a picture of me dusting.
joking about our chores

I am not adverse to helping anyone.  In fact I don't mind at all, but when it becomes a command then I am no longer a willing participant. I can volunteer to help, but if you start ordering me around that's a different story. For example, Arvid and I have volunteered to help Michelle and Emil with their balcony. That we want to do very much. No one is making us do it and that's the beauty of it.  We just want to do it.  

I actually did dust for her; even though there was no dust I managed to look busy. After I was done Arvid's mom says to me, "the days are going by too fast."  I look at her and I say, "no they are not,"  My guess is she did not like this.  Nor did she like the fact that I don't follow orders. 

 Neither Arvid nor I have much patience, but we are doing the best we can.  Arvid has always said to me that I am different than anyone he has ever met.  He says this is one of the things he really likes about me.  Sometimes I think it is also one of the things he would like me to change in me at times.  He says I will one day get in trouble because of my mouth.  Maybe his mom also had a shock yesterday.  

in Tonsberg
After we left his mom's we came back to our apartment, Arvid did some work, I read and had a cup of coffee, and relaxed a bit before heading out to meet his brother and Siv in their boat.

almost 11 pm and the sun was shining on our faces:)
We drove to Tonsberg, a bigger city than the one Arvid is from, and we spent the evening with Arvid's brother and girlfriend.  We visited them in their boat where we had an very interesting time.  A few snacks and drinks then we all went out to dinner on by the dock.  Needless to say the evening was very enjoyable, relaxing and entertaining.  After a few hours it was time to leave.  I then drove us back to the apartment and we enjoyed a little chocolate pudding and vanilla sauce before going to bed.

Today waiting to see what's in store for us at Arvid's mom.  Promises to be another interesting day.
Hope you all have a good day as well.

The best inheritance a parent can give to his children is a few minutes of their time each day and in this case Arvid to his mom...