May 21, 2013

What's Perfection?

Sometimes... when you hold out for everything, you walk away with nothing..
Gold cannot be pure, and people cannot be perfect...

So many of us are obsessed with being thin that sometimes we actually forget to see the beauty in us with all of our imperfections.  Don't get me wrong, I will be the first to admit to being one who always wants to be a few sizes smaller . 
I will also admit that I like who I am with all my imperfections and not.  

This is something posted by one of my friends and it reminded me of how superficial many of us really are.  You don't have to agree, but an open mind is OK.  
It goes like this:

A while back, at the entrance of a gym, there was a picture of a very thin and beautiful woman. The caption was "This summer, do you want to be a mermaid or a whale?"

The story goes, a woman (of clothing size unknown) answered the following way: 

"Dear people, whales are always surrounded by friends (dolphins, seals, curious humans), they are sexually active and raise their children with great tenderness.

They entertain like crazy with dolphins and eat lots of prawns. They swim all day and travel to fantastic places like Patagonia, the Barents Sea or the coral reefs of Polynesia.
They sing incredibly well and sometimes even are on cds. They are impressive and dearly loved animals, which everyone defend and admires.

Mermaids do not exist.

But if they existed, they would line up to see a psychologist because of a problem of split personality: woman or fish? 
They would have no sex life and could not bear children.
Yes, they would be lovely, but lonely and sad.
And, who wants a girl that smells like fish by his side?

Without a doubt, I'd rather be a whale.

At a time when the media tells us that only thin is beautiful, I prefer to eat ice cream with my kids, to have dinner with my husband, to eat and drink and have fun with my friends.

We women, we gain weight because we accumulate so much wisdom and knowledge that there isn't enough space in our heads, and it spreads all over our bodies.
We are not fat, we are greatly cultivated.

Every time I see my curves in the mirror, I tell myself: "How amazing am I ?! "

I am comfortable with myself and even though I will always want to lose those few extra pounds, I am happy and I like me.  There is only one me and that is what makes me special and unique. 
We may not be perfect, but on the other hand, does perfection exists?  Once we accept the fact that we are not perfect, then we can develop some confidence.

As my friend Ivette says:

People should be more caring and understanding of others. Don't criticize others. If you can, help them. Be a friend. Don't hurt their feelings. We are not better than anyone else. And no one is better than us. If someone wants to change, it's personal. Help them if possible. If they not trying to change, it's personal. Help them by encouragement, not insults.