Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned...
I wrote this post a few months ago and just came across it.
Somehow it managed to get "lost" even so,
I still decided to publish it.
Somehow it managed to get "lost" even so,
I still decided to publish it.
Today my blog is more like a question. The question is what makes a person dislike another so much that they go out of their way to voice their opinions in such a personal and angry way, especially when they do not know the person they are being angry towards? I see it often on TV shows and even though I know it is just TV it is also something very real and happens more than we think especially among family and friends. I have my ideas, but would like to hear yours.
Is there something specific one should be on the look out for, and if so what? So many times we go about thinking we know someone, that this someone is a good friend, but then all of a sudden it's like we are confronted with this alien of a person. Alien in a sense that their behavior is so bizarre from what we know. Being sweet one moment then bitter the next, what? why?
I have noticed at times hostility. I don't mind the hostility, the rage, nor the anger I sense, but I am curious as to why. Especially if you don't know someone. Just a curiosity more than anything. I am intrigued at the behaviour because it is something I don't understand. On the other hand, if I knew you and we had some kind of history maybe that would make better sense.There could exist some kind of petty jealousy, envy or something. At least there is a reason. Right now as it stands...can't figure it out...and I am intrigued. I have many readers leaving comments; I don't know many of them personally. We have never interacted personally. Only via the blog and none have been so fierce as a particular reader...this is so puzzling and that's why I am so intrigued.
kindness and love....best recipe
Nothing wrong with remaining anonymous, because I do know some readers have written to me saying this was the only way they know of leaving a comment. I am OK with this, but to this particular reader my question is why so vindictive? Why do you take everything I write personally? This is supposed to be just a place where I share different aspects of life, where I write informative articles all for the purpose of entertaining the reader and of hopefully bringing some humor into their day. Just simple reading without complications.
This reader has taken it on herself/himself to take it way too personal. I ask why? I ask the same questions to my readers. Why would a person who claims to not know you take everything so personally? Why would they be so full of hostility and anger to someone they don't know? I have just been going back to different posts and in those that Anonymous has commented they are all full of anger. I would go so far as to say hatred. I would still like to know why??
The reason I am asking this is because a few of my readers have asked me who is this person who always seems to attack without reason. I have seen this in many other of my blogs. I guess it must have gotten to the point where even the readers thought it was a bit odd for a total stranger to be so personal. Like I said I am more intrigued than anything else.
To you my anonymous reader I will say...slow down. Always remember to slow down in life; live, breathe, and learn; take a look around you whenever you have time and never forget everything and every person that has a place within your heart. Don't take everything so personally because sooner or later you might get an ulcer....Life is too short to hold grudges...and this is only a blog meant for entertainment....
Anger will never disappear so long as thoughts of resentment are cherished in the mind. Anger will disappear just as soon as thoughts of resentment are forgotten...
4 comments:
It has to be someone you know because no one else would take the time or have the need to demonstrate uncalled for hostility. Trust me it has to be someone you know. This person has deep seeded resentments. You should be able to think back and figure out what, who, or why. Deduction my friend. I will say that almost impossible for someone who is just a causal reader would make such comments as you say. Most readers read and rarely if ever comment. It is merely for pleasure and nothing else. Watch your back because I can guarantee I am not wrong! probably someone with too much time on their hands for sure. They must be insecure, bored and or just jealous of you. Or maybe without realizing it you mmay have offended someone? Is it that person Curious you mean? I also remember sometime a while back comments traded between curious and someone anonymous. Could just be a prank also to see if you bite. Spice things up. You never know how peoples mind works. All I know is that sometimes it does get racy.
Someone with a bone to pick i also agree it is someone who knows you. Definitely not a stranger
I will also say that this can only be someone you know!
Nadiya sad as it may seem, most times it is definitely someone you know. Only makes sense because that is the kind of person that would dwell on things and will hold grudges and resentments. Sometimmes they can pretend everything is good, treat you like you were best friends then stab you in the back. I have learnt to be careful (very careful) of what I say and to who I say. Maybe if you are doing good workwise, this person might not like it. Sometimes they could be envious of where you live, if you travel or plain simple if it's a woman they could be jealous if you are prettier. Simple things, petty things but definitely factor it in.
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