Dec 2, 2015

A Good Attitude Helps...

The reason why I speak my mind, and the reason why I get aggressive is because I believe
 that when negative energy is directed towards you, you need to get rid of it as soon as
 possible. And most importantly, you need to redirect back from whence it came. In my 
opinion choosing the higher road and ignoring it is bullshit. Why? Because 
what ends up happening is that you bottle that negativity inside of you. 
You carry it. It burdens you. It doesn't just disappear...

Negativity breeds negativity, zap its flow as quickly as possible by switching focus or 
making amends.  Negativity exists all around us and it is up to us to either let it
 influence our lives and drag us down or to do something about it and rise above it.  

Many years ago, when I lived in NYC, I  was going through a very rough period in my life and 
met a person, who today is one of my very best friends, but many years ago this friend 
was completely down on life and on people.  Truth is, if you knew her circumstances you 
would also have had a not so positive outlook on life. Seems like no matter what I tried
 her mind was already made up and nothing was going to change that.  
I was faced with the decision of staying friends or to call it quits.  

We choose to remain friends, a decision I am happy we made.  At the same time, I choose
 to not be part of that negativity she was so caught up in.  Today though we live some
miles apart I know I can count on her and she knows she can do the same.  Yes, 
occasionally I do have to listen to that other side of her, but I have learnt that 
not everything in life is perfect and sometimes to see the good, we also
 have to experience the not so good.   I can deal with negative people
 when necessary just like most...just a part of life and as we
 know life has no set rules....remember every day may not
 be good, but there's something good in every day.

You see the other part of that story is that she also has put up with many of my
 not best moments.  She is always there when I need her and not time nor 
distance can take away the bond we share.  Negativity or not, best
 friends are hard to come by and when you do come across 
one there is nothing that can change that relationship.

Sometimes tragedy combined with negativity because of the circumstances, has a way of 
bringing people together in strange ways.  Another of my best friends, lives in California. 
 We came together under the saddest of circumstances, but maybe because of these
 circumstances we have also formed a bond that grows stronger with the years.

Happiness is an attitude.  We either make ourselves miserable,
 or happy and strong.  The amount of work is the same....